I work part time for a company that contracts with Children Services to provide parenting skills and help to families with at risk youth.
While I have had some families that just needed help (and weren’t psycho), the majority of my job involves supervising visits with parents and children who no longer live together. FOR GOOD REASONS.
Recently a few jobs came open for mentors… My response? SIGN ME UP! Who wouldn’t prefer hanging out with a troubled teen to having to endure parents you’d like to string up by their toes, you know?
So for the last 5 weeks I have been spending Monday afternoons with my the 14 yr old girl I am mentoring, Miranda… Mondays with Miranda (and no, I didn’t plan to meet with her on Mondays so I would have cute blog term, but it is cute, isn’t it? *grin*) provide me with more conversations about pre-martial sex than I’d care to recount, but sprinkled in there Miranda gives back to me by providing me some with good laughs.
Miranda loves music…. country and rap. What a combo, right? She also cannot quit switching the stations in the car… After.Every.Song. She’s a like a man with a remote. I established with her early on that songs about drugs or sex or that sound angry are not allowed in my car so I end up listening to a lot of old country songs I haven’t heard since I went through my own country phase back in 7th grade and occasionally a Taylor Swift or a bubble gum R&B tune.
I got out of the car to pump some gas before I took her home yesterday and the second the door closed, she began surfing for a new song. (If there was Station Surfing Anonymous, this girl would be the perfect candidate for the group!) I heard through the sun roof the DJ announce the next song was by Jordin Sparks. Now, I have never seen American Idol, but I did read about the comment this girl made at the MTV awards in support of promise rings. So I am thinking this could be a good teaching moment, I poked my head in the car. “Hey leave this song on, ok?” I finished pumping the gas and hopped into the car somewhere during the chorus.
“Do you like this song?” (she did) “You know, Jordin Sparks is really talented and pretty and she doesn’t have to just sing about sex to be successful…la la la la…” (I will spare you the details) “… she seems like a really good person, ” I concluded.
Miranda replied, “yeah she doesn’t even have a record”
Now, I am thinking about MUSIC, ok? And I am thinking of course she has a record out and before fully processing our two very different world views, I said “She does have a record out actually. I think it came out recently”
Miranda looked at me like I was an alien from another planet. “Huh? Oh I know she got a CD out, I mean she doesn’t have a record or nothing. Like, she’s never been locked up.”
Ahh… that’s right…the word “record” has more than one meaning.